Humans of New York tells life like it is. Brandon, the HONY storyteller, left this response in regards to the comments that people left on one of his recent posts. One can’t agree more:

“When presented with a complex story, where things aren’t always black and white, and circumstances can be as much to blame as choices– consider withholding judgment. This doesn’t mean you are condoning or validating a person’s choices. There can be a middle ground between ‘giving support’ and ‘casting judgment.’ You can always just listen. I say this because as the stories have become more detailed in recent months, it seems that the comment section has grown more judgmental. It’s perfectly valid to have strong feelings and opinions. And I certainly don’t want to suppress free speech. But remember that people choose to share their stories here. And they can just as easily choose not to. Extreme judgment stifles communication and discourages honesty. This holds true for relationships, households, and communities. Let’s not make this a community where honesty and self-reflection are punished with rebuke. Because without honesty, these stories will lose their power.” –HONY

 

“That truth that we each see is not necessarily the truth that exists.” – unknown